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Having Confidence In Your Skin

Thursday, 20 August 2015
This is the first time I've posted a photo online with no make up on, I dont even go to college with no makeup on. It scares me because I'm not confident about my skin, however over the years of having bad skin I have gained more confidence and I can do more things without layers upon layers of foundation on, so I though I'd give some tips on what helps me.


Skin Story:
Firstly I wanted to share a few things about my skin story so you can get an idea of the issues I have with it. I have a lot of dark pigmentation around my mouth from years of spots, my skin is very pale so when I have spots they go but they leave behind darker pigmentation. I've tried all kinds of toners but I havent found one that works just yet. I also have big smile lines so the dark pigmentation is highlighted more from the lines. Then theres the spots, they dont bother me as much as they did but obviously I dont think anyone like have red dots all over their face ahah! 
If you read my blog you'll know I never include my face, even in a chat yesterday I was saying how awkward I feel with face shots. I do this because it would take so long for me to get an ok photo that it's just not worth it. 

My Tips To Help Confidence:

1: Highlight the good parts. I do this a lot with my makeup because it accentuates the parts I like more.By this I mean, if I have a huge spot or my pigmentation is particularly bad that day, I'll take more time on my eyes or put a nicer lipstick on. It just give me a bit more confidence in how I look and makes me feel better. After all, how you feel is most important, so instead of spending ages trying to cover and cover I just highlight the parts I like and want to see.

2: Don't rely on makeup for confidence. Throughout school I used to wear eyeliner everyday because I thought my mouth was so big it made my eyes look small and eyeliner made them look bigger. Eyeliner doesnt go right everyday, just like any makeup, and this would make me feel so gross. In college I decided to just stop wearing it. I cut it out of my routine during the holidays and I havent wore it for confidence reasons in months. Cutting certain parts out gradually really helped my confidence and showed that I didn't need eyeliner to help me feel better. No one said 'oh your eyes are tiny' and actually I looked a lot more fresh without it. 

3: Treat your skin. Because I hated my skin so much I never loved skincare because nothing seemed to work. I'd try a lot out and spend time researching but I never fell in love with treating my skin and taking time on it. When it got to prom I knew I had to change something so I started taking more time for my skin, instead of just doing basic cleansing and toning, I started to cut down on harsh products and I tried to give my skin days off. I used to wear makeup even in the house because I just felt gross without it but giving my skin days off when I'm not doing anything or even swapping my fuller coverage base for a heavier concealer and BB cream let my skin breathe and it cleared up a bit. I also stripped my skincare routine down so instead of using a lot of different products for spots, I used more moisture based ones. This just helped to calm my skin down and not overload it.

4: Know that no one else sees you like you do. I never used to believe this because I've had bullies point out spots but really they saw one big spot and not all the little one I could see, or the dark pigmentation and they didnt care about the bags under my eyes or the dry patches at the side of my face. People may notice big spots but they only see a spot they dont see everything else. You look at yourself everyday and notice all the small details, no one else does. You are you harshest critic, once I started to realize this I became more confident because I knew that no one could be as mean as me, which brings me onto the next tip... 

5: Dont be so harsh on yourself.  As I said, you are your harshest critic, but this can be a negative thing when you're constantly beating yourself up. If I have a big spot now I try to just laugh it off and make a joke of it, instead of analyzing it and making it worse than it is. If you over think something and  constantly beat yourself up, you'll notice it more and feel worse. I try to be like 'oh that a big spot but wow my cheek bones are looking fab today'. I never did this because it was ingrained in me not to be big headed but loving yourself isnt big headed or narcissistic. People give such negative labels to confidence but even if you just say it to yourself its a great thing. Point out the good things because other people will. You would say to your friend 'Ew your pigmentation makes you look like a man' so dont say it to yourself, instead say 'aw you look happy because of your big smile.' I've found it takes time but just try it.

6: Everyone has issues!!  I had spots from a very young age and I had them before everyone else seemed to, so I did feel like I was the only one with gross skin. I wasnt, other people had issues, some people were self conscious because of things like, their bushy hair, a big mouth, thin eyebrows, bags under their eyes but I never noticed their 'flaws'* until they said because I'd never see them as 'flaws'. Everyone has something to be self conscious about that you may not even notice, just know you're not the only one and again most people probably didnt notice your 'flaws' either. 

* I say 'flaws' but as I've said, most people dont see them as a flaw or something to hide. Whenever someone tells me their 'flaw' I never see it as that and I'm always confused because its little quirks that are endearing and make you like a person. Their not really flaws there a part of you that makes you special. I mean I never see this but I know all my friends really like my big smile or my boyfriend always tells me it's his favourite part. Again dont be too harsh on yourself. 

Hope this helped! xo

12 comments

  1. What a lovely post with brilliant tips! I also did the whole eyeliner thing to distract people from my tiny mouth (it's seriously small - it's crazy). I have only really recently gotten into a proper skincare routine and it has made such a difference. Cleanse and Polish has been a life saver for me.

    Rachael at broomfie.blogspot.com

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    1. Aw ahah thank you! I really want to try that, I think it's going to be next on my list xx

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  2. This is a lovely post! I have very pale skin and suffer from acne. They leave quite dark scars which makes it look like I have a cheek full of spots which is annoying. I definitely should stop relying on makeup for confidence! Great tips x

    http://thriftyvintagefashion.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Ugh I know how you feel, you don't even get the happiness of a spot going because the darkness is still there ahha. Thank you for being lovely, your comments always make my day!Xx

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  3. Number 4 really hit home with me. My skin has never been great although it has started clearing up recently, it made me realise I'm the one that notices every single imperfection, not everyone else.
    Great tips and post x

    chaptersofkat.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Exactly, it took me a while to think like this but I find I'm a lot more confident because of it. Thank you so much lovely!xx

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  4. I feel you. Big time. And sending you a huge virtual hug, girl.
    I've struggled so much with my skin issues. Thankfully it is clearing up but I still don't have enough courage to go completely barefaced. Such a lovely post <3
    New to your blog :)
    xox Nadia
    http://mielandmint.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Aw thank you so much lovely, you're beautiful but I totally understand. I barely go out without makeup xx

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  5. I struggle with skin care too because of how bad my skin is, it's really disheartening. I've really slimmed down my day to day make up now and it has helped but I still have the scarring, I think a lot of us have to realise it isn't what defines us! Nice post!
    Www.racheleiwood.blogspot.com

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    1. Yes! It takes time but every time I get further in liking my skin I get a boost of confidence. Thank you Xx

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  6. I wrote a post like this a while back as I have the exact same feelings towards this subject! It's so hard to feel comfortable when your skin is bad but it is important to learn to be confident in yourself no matter what physical imperfections you have; what's inside is what matters!

    Catherine xx
    www.youwishyou.com

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    1. Exactly! I'm trying so hard to tell myself that everyday xx

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