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Body Confidence Tips

Wednesday, 26 August 2015
I'm not great with having amazing body confidence but I would say I have came along way from where I used to be, so I thought I'd share my tips that have helped me so far.


So I briefly wanted to mention how I've struggled with body confidence. I think like everyone, when you're growing up and you hit puberty and you're still figuring out yourself, your confidence drops. Everyone has an awkward stage and mine was throughout secondary school; during this time I was quite self conscious about how I looked and particularly my body image. I constantly felt fat, even if I wasnt, so I lost a bit of weight and as I grew up I became more myself and got thinner. I was never underweight but I've always been petite. Im around 5 ft and a normal weight for that height, I'd get a lot of comments saying how 'skinny' I was and I'd get self conscious about my lack of curves. I'm not 14 anymore and I dont have the body I did then, I've found it hard growing into my body because I've always been small, so to grow and not be it's hard but I feel a lot better now and I feel like I'm accepting and loving my body how it is. 

Tips:

1: Stop comparing yourself because you'll never be someone else. I always compared myself to thinner girls, curvy girls just anyone who I thought looked nice I'd compare myself. I now constantly try to stop myself doing this because I know I'll never be like someone else and I should never want to. It's hard not to compare yourself when your surrounded my social media and all these amazing women but you should never drag yourself down because of it. Celebrate other peoples bodies but also your own. Comparing will take you nowhere, I'm always going to be small and I'm never going to have the legs of a tall model but thats ok, I just need to put the energy I would use comparing myself to others for hours into learning to love my small legs. I've said it before but you always say nice things about other people so start doing it to yourself. 

2: Peoples opinions can be shaming but don't take them to heart. Everyone has certain people they are attracted to but just because they are doesn't mean they should use this to shame your body and if they do you shouldn't take it to heart. I'm not a curvy person and I dont have a Kim K bum, even if sometime I wish I did, but I'm fine with that, however when people comment things like 'Curvy girls are so much better than skinny girls' or the other way around it's offensive. Just because you like something doesn't mean you should drag down another person. The worst is 'men dont like bones, dog do' it's just like maybe I want to be happy with my body without constantly being dragged down because of immature boys comments. You should love your body for yourself not because everyone around you is telling you false ideals of what is and isnt attractive. 

 3: Find what flatters you. Obviously it's nice to be on trend and in fashion but I always buy things that flatter me and make me feel comfortable. This isn't giving yourself rules of what you can and can't wear because you your body shape, it's just finding clothes that you make you comfortable. For example if I'm going to a party and I don't feel comfortable getting my legs out, I wont because it doesn't make me comfortable. The same goes for fashion, if theres a trend thats in and everyones wearing it, don't feel pressured to if it's not something that flatters you and makes you feel comfortable. For example, I love my highwaisted jeans but if I'm feeling bloated I dont try and wear them because they are more trendy than joggers because I know I'll feel like a tightly packed sausage all day if I wear them.

4: It's ok to want to change and improve, as long as its healthy and realistic. Obviously it's ok to want to change and improve your body, you dont have to love it if you're really not happy and it's ok to work one something in order to love it. However,  the changes need to realistic and healthy, it's not fair on yourself to try and lose a lot of weight by starving yourself or wanting to change the size of your hips because you cant change your bones. Thing like this you need to learn to embrace, it's ok to change but stay healthy with it, go to the gym or eat better, don;t go on mad diets or just be unrealistic. You body deserves love and care so just do things carefully and safely.

5: We all have bad days. You need to remember that it's ok to have bad days when you feel a bit gross about yourself but you have to remember it's just a down day. I know when it's my time of the month I get bloated and chubby and I feel like I have to do something about it but I have to remind my self that it's just a bad day and I cant base all my confidence on a one off day.

6: Confidence will take a while, just work at it. You can't just tell yourself you love your body and expect to feel that way straight away. It takes time to change how you think and as I've said, you'll have down days but it's ok if you just keep working at it. In your mind just know when it's a down day or when you actually feel like you need to change. If I get in a rut of feeling confident I know I need to change something and I do but healthily. You need to work at changing your mind set to love your body but if you keep going it gets easier to compliment yourself and it's easier to stop comparing yourself. Just remember change takes time.

Hope you liked this post!xo

11 comments

  1. I completely agree with all of these! I used to suffer terribly with body confidence issues but I just don't care! Self care is so much more important than self hatred.. it's rare you see someone loving their body and feeling confident nowadays, which is so sad but I'm glad to see you're more confident that you once were :) xx

    Sam // Samantha Betteridge

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    1. Exactly, it feels like if you say something nice about yourself, you get dragged down for being 'big headed'! It's fine to love yourself omg!! I'm really glad you're confident, it's so refreshing xx

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    2. Exactly, it feels like if you say something nice about yourself, you get dragged down for being 'big headed'! It's fine to love yourself omg!! I'm really glad you're confident, it's so refreshing xx

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  2. This is such a lovely post to read. I definitely think finding clothes that suit you & give you more confidence is important x


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    1. Thank you!! It really helps me, especially finding a style I love xx

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    2. Thank you!! It really helps me, especially finding a style I love xx

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  3. Couldn't agree more with every paragraph of this post, Sophie! Well done! You are so right! Body confidence is something we should work on every day. At the end of the day, standards set by society are simply someone's opinion and what matters is - your own opinion about yourself. When I think about it that way, I am more than comfortable with my body (which might be "flawed"/"not perfect" by society's deluded beauty standards) :)
    xox Nadia
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    1. Aw thank you so much Nadia! I've been trying hard everyday with it and I think i'm getting so much better!XX

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  4. This is so lovely and helpful, thank you so much for writing something like this I really felt like I've needed a confidence boost lately and this has made me feel so much better!

    Love, Hannah
    www.justmycouture.co.uk

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    1. Aw thank you, I'm gad it's helped! You're beautiful xx

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  5. I used to have body confidence issues, but I somehow managed to become extremely confident in my body, although I don't think it changed that much aha. These are really awesome tips as well, I love reading positive posts like this.

    The Velvet Black | UK Style & Beauty Blog

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